5 years ago tomorrow

[dotinthesky]

Tomorrow marks 5 years since I started "dating" Kevin.

Can't believe 5 years ago we were taking those special steps towards the cinema, to watch Bride of Chucky. Then he came over to my apartment afterwards and I gave him a mug of orange juice (it was either that, water, or milk.) We listened to some Classical Chinese music (because I had just returned from Tsing Tao, where my dad and brother were living at the time) and I lit up some Beewax candles (which Helen gave to me on my birthday.)

I lived in Montreal, on Cote-des Neiges. Very near Concordia University.

I miss Canada. If Kevin doesn't propose soon, would any Canadians be willing to marry me?

(also, happy anniversary to dilvalicious. 4 years ago, today, she was going on a special date to Fight Club)

Comments

[dilvalicious.livejournal.com]

awww...thanks sweetcheeks!

[4q.livejournal.com]

that is such a sweet story! I love stories about how people met and first dates and things like that!

and it's so cute you want to get married! I love it!

[commonpeople.livejournal.com]

have fun today and don't be too rough on Mike! He needs his energy to work tomorrow.

[commonpeople.livejournal.com]

i don't know what to give him as a gift tomorrow. I just sent him a text saying we shouldn't give each other anything... but now I'm wondering if I'm being too moody.

[4q.livejournal.com]

hmmm well five years is hard, you prolly don't buy each other as extravagent gifts as when you first started dating but you still want to get him something. What about just a nice dinner out? or I don't know something he wouldn't buy himself...

so you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with this boy?

and is gay marriage legal in canada yet?

[commonpeople.livejournal.com]

yup, gay marriage is apparently legal in Ontario, B.C. and Quebec !

i dunno about the rest of my life... it's such a long time, things change. I don't know if one day I might want to return to brazil... which would be difficult for him to come along (seeing that brazil doesn't accept gay marriages.)

i try to think only on a short-term basis... when I try looking too far into the future, I sometimes depress myself... and other times I feel very hopeful. I don't know if those feelings are good, because they are based on imaginary things, aren't they?

[4q.livejournal.com]

okei I was wondering because there has been a lot of debate about, it and I hate to say it but I am just don't follow the news all that closely sometimes.. bad me!

short term is good and you only have one life, and therefore you should live it on your own terms. I think it's good to be hopeful about your future, because without hope what do you have? I mean don't get carried away thinking that everything is going to be wine and roses but its' good to make a loose plan, you dont want to end up 60 with no money, having done nothing, waiting to die do you? well that was a bit harsh but you know what I mean non?

[dilvalicious.livejournal.com]

i'll be gentle

[commonpeople.livejournal.com]

lol... yeah, i do know what you mean. I know that I save money, and make plans about taking my writing somewhere, and learning learning learning, keeping myself fit, travelling, making new friends (and meeting them *wink wink*)...

i do get scared of old age, and what the world is going to be like to us... i hope people won't be too psycho and kick us when we take our walkers to the park.

[tikarass.livejournal.com]

First, congratulations.

Second, where in Canada have you lived? The though of moving to and/or looking at grad schools in Québec has crossed my mind a few times... (I can only tolerate so much of this country, and it is so hard to move to (and of course harder to become naturalized in) France as a non-E.U. citizen...)

[commonpeople.livejournal.com]

Thanks Tika! :o)

I lived in Montreal, for 5 amazing years. I love Montreal and I highly recommend the city, specially if you loved France. Montreal is, to me, the best city in North America - hands down. The best of Europe with the best of North America.

There are tons of great universities and colleges there. What would you like to study? It's also a big student city, so it's very cheap to live there... specially for an American.

[4q.livejournal.com]

you are such a sweetheart! and I know I fear for the state of the world, this is why I dont' want kids, I cannot imagine them growing up in this world, I just dont' think it's fair I mean i know reading Angelas' Ashes that kids will have fun even in the most dire conditions, but honestly, I can't imagine bringing up kids in this world, I find it horrifying on a daily basis.

also being responsible for a helpless little thing like that makes me want to head for the hills

[tikarass.livejournal.com]

Right now I'm look into Comparative Literature, French or Political Theory -- or something in-between those. Right now I'm studying 'Social thought and political economy' and 'French studies'...

I've been to Québec city, but never to Montréal... seems like I need myself up there and check it out...

[commonpeople.livejournal.com]

what about adopting? I was thinking, it would be ideal. You don't bring anyone into the world, but you might as well help the ones that are already here, without a choice.

[commonpeople.livejournal.com]

oh definetly... it's a beautiful city, and the people are gorgeous too... it has the 4 seasons played out, a very strong arts and literature nightlife... tons of little things happening all the time.

Do you speak and write French well? You could either try McGill (which is an Anglo university) or Universite du Montreal... I studied in the Liberal Arts College in Concordia University, which was very good too. It's a degree called "History and Culture of Western Society" which takes in politics, literature, religion, art, philosophy... and they encourage you to do a second degree... which you could then fit in French Studies.

[tikarass.livejournal.com]

I'm basically fluent (thanks to my French boyfriend who spoke no English) and I will be writing my undergraduate thesis in French, so once that's done my writing should be perfected :)

[4q.livejournal.com]

yes, I agree with you there, thats the best solution and i really like the way you worded that

[commonpeople.livejournal.com]

excellent! i took an intensive course in Montreal for 6 months... i can read well, and understand too... but my speaking is rusty. It's a shame really, i must find some courses and get back into it.

I'm reading right now a book by Michel Tremblay, a popular gay writer from Montreal. You should check him out. All his novels are set in Montreal and they really pass on the feeling of the city.

[5500.livejournal.com]

five years is quite something.
congratulations, and best of wishes for more.

[commonpeople.livejournal.com]

i really love kids, and i think it would be fun to be a gay parent and have children... it would be an honour to be an example! lol... i think most gay men are directionless in life, so hopefully they will begin to change and see that they can actually help and participate more in society.

[commonpeople.livejournal.com]

thanks Matt.

♥

[4q.livejournal.com]

I concur! sometimes I think having kids would be really fun, and I would love to teach them things, then I think oh god why would I want to take care of something for 18 plus years...lol

[5500.livejournal.com]

you're welcome.
this living together business is reinforcing for me how much work it can be to keep relationships going, so i have major appreciation for longevity and continued happiness.

[commonpeople.livejournal.com]

i would want a kid to teach them about literature, music, the world... not just because I want to see my face on somebody else (which I think is the reason most straight couples have kids.) I would a kid so I could show to the world that being gay is not a choice, and it doesn't affect the choices of others.

[tikarass.livejournal.com]

cooo... what's a good book to start?