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Dot in the Sky ([personal profile] dotinthesky) wrote2005-06-13 03:16 pm
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I Love Free Massages

I think the National Theatre's masseur has a crush on me!


I work on the fifth floor. Everyday, to go down to the canteen, I have to take some staircases and walk through a few corridors on the second floor. This route takes me past the masseur's room, otherwise known as "The Quiet Room". It's here that actors, directors, etc. (I'm fabulously guessing) come for relaxation, massages, and facials when they need it (all paid for by the NT, I'm sure). The room has a massage bed, soft colours and a couch, and its door is usually open. Sometimes, when it's closed, I assume there are people in there getting treatment.

One day I walked past the room and the masseur was standing by the door, waiting for someone. He was about my height, with shaved head and big round blue eyes. My gaydar was immediatly set off. He gave me that piercing inspection look that all gay men give each other when their paths cross, but I didn't make much of it.

So, because I have to go past that room often, I've naturally been running into that guy too. I would think that by now he would just ignore me, but he always stops what he's doing and stares. Last week, he was talking to a woman as I passed. He stopped what he was saying and I could sense that there was some silent exchange between them before he said "anyways, continuing my story..."

This could all be my own paranoia, of course, if the evidence hadn't been mounting since then. Last thursday, I sensed there was someone really close to me in the canteen's line up. I caught the glimpse of a big guy in white just standing behind me (he always wears white). I moved to get my coffee and this person followed and positioned himself in front of me. Then he stared! I, of course, quickly ran away.

Well, the reason why I'm writing this is because I just came back from the canteen with a coffee. He was sitting with an older man talking. He didn't seem to have noticed me so I thought to myself "I'll just quickly walk across the room and leave." But, of course, as I was approaching their table he snapped his neck in my direction and stared at me. Hasty retreat followed.

Maybe he's just curious because he senses I'm gay too?

[identity profile] myendeavorca.livejournal.com 2005-06-13 03:45 pm (UTC)(link)
Do you want to talk to him or not?
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Do masseurs ever really do that?!

[identity profile] msanthropist.livejournal.com 2005-06-13 06:08 pm (UTC)(link)
I always loved it when I thought someone at work had a crush on me! It makes it feel more exciting, the air is edgier, the atmosphere charged, I'm - tighter somehow. Makes going to work something to look forward to - the harmless flirtation adds fun, don't you think?

Re: Do masseurs ever really do that?!

[identity profile] purplethings.livejournal.com 2005-06-14 07:32 am (UTC)(link)
Hm. I think that perhaps when you suspect someone has a crush on you, you act differently towards them... more firty perhaps. This then makes them think you have a crush on them and it could all get very messy!

Re: Do masseurs ever really do that?!

[identity profile] commonpeople.livejournal.com 2005-06-14 09:43 am (UTC)(link)
Oh yes!

By the way, I think I'm going dancing this friday at Button Down Disco! How are your dancing shoes doing? :)

Re: Do masseurs ever really do that?!

[identity profile] purplethings.livejournal.com 2005-06-15 07:52 am (UTC)(link)
I think I may be busy then but I haven't heard a response from someone so maybe I'm not!
My dancing shoes are good. Probably because they haven't been used for so long :D

I know it's meant to be secret [which makes me want to go even MORE!] but where is it being held?
Swan_Lake009@hotmail.com

Re: Do masseurs ever really do that?!

[identity profile] commonpeople.livejournal.com 2005-06-15 12:27 pm (UTC)(link)
Let me know if you got my email!

Flirty at Work

[identity profile] msanthropist.livejournal.com 2005-06-14 03:13 pm (UTC)(link)
Live dangerously!!! Just don't succumb to temptation and cross the line that makes things awkward instead of harmless fun...

Re: Flirty at Work

[identity profile] commonpeople.livejournal.com 2005-06-14 03:18 pm (UTC)(link)
I think that's the key... knowing when to stop things from descending into dangerous territory!

[identity profile] commonpeople.livejournal.com 2005-06-13 06:29 pm (UTC)(link)
I would get into big trouble with my boyfriend.
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[identity profile] commonpeople.livejournal.com 2005-06-14 09:24 am (UTC)(link)
I'm not attracted to this guy. :)

That's why I said "harmless flirtation"

[identity profile] msanthropist.livejournal.com 2005-06-13 07:26 pm (UTC)(link)
It's just one of the things that makes life more fun, for everyone! I hope there is some HARMLESS flirtation taking place somewhere in my lover's life. I think it would make him happier in general, and a better partner in particular. A sexier lover, no?

Re: That's why I said "harmless flirtation"

[identity profile] commonpeople.livejournal.com 2005-06-14 09:26 am (UTC)(link)
I guess I do enjoy in harmless flirtation, in the sense that I'm not giving this guy any evil looks or anything like that. But I generally lead a life outside the "gay community" so with every gay man I meet, I'm always cautious that I don't give them the wrong impression I'm interested.

Sound Approach

[identity profile] msanthropist.livejournal.com 2005-06-14 03:18 pm (UTC)(link)
...and sensible. I know what you mean. If you truly don't want people to think of you in sexual terms, it can be very uncomfortable and annoying if they persist. I once had a client beg me to show him my tits! He wouldn't back down even after I threatened to ask his wife what she thought about his request until I looked him directly in the eye and told him quietly that in some places his behavior could be construed as "sexual harrassment". THAT got him...sex...it can be such a sticky wicket...

[identity profile] desayuno-ingles.livejournal.com 2005-06-13 09:14 pm (UTC)(link)
massage therapists

and yes, some do that. but goddammit, I've worked seriously hard for my license (well, that's soon to come) and I'm tired of that stereotype.

Professional ethics

[identity profile] msanthropist.livejournal.com 2005-06-13 10:06 pm (UTC)(link)
So you won't get a client off, even if they ask or pay extra? What if you find yourself strongly attracted to them ala' Brenda on Six Feet Under?

Re: Professional ethics

[identity profile] desayuno-ingles.livejournal.com 2005-06-13 11:26 pm (UTC)(link)
I do domme work, so I'm no stranger to that (I do not jerk clients off, btw) but no. I want my massage work separate from all that. If I found myself strongly attracted to them, I would find a reason to refer them to someone else and end the therapeutic relationship to keep anything untoward from happening. And then I would cease contact with them. I actually had to do that with a chiropractor I was seeing. He was just too hot.

That all being said, I find no difficulty in adding massage to the sex I enjoy with people I already know.

Intriguer

[identity profile] msanthropist.livejournal.com 2005-06-14 01:04 am (UTC)(link)
Pro domme? If so, can you really make any money or is pay-for-play just an added bonus to something you enjoy? Great answer, btw...and easy to see that you do indeed have strong professional ethics. I've often wished there was a local workshop one could attend for pointers for amateurs. My husband, I think, would happily pay for it.

Re: Intriguer

[identity profile] desayuno-ingles.livejournal.com 2005-06-14 02:03 am (UTC)(link)
which, massage or domme work? *grin*

Well, if by pro you only mean "paid for it" then yes, I suppose I am. but I've never been a part of any "scene" and I've never worked in a club. It's always just been small-time stuff on local boards. I discovered I enjoyed it and decided to try using it to make a little money while in school.

I was just thinking the other day, though, that if you're being paid to be a domme, you're never truly in the position of power. You still have to cater to his or her desires.

Re: Intriguer

[identity profile] msanthropist.livejournal.com 2005-06-14 03:24 pm (UTC)(link)
Both, actually, but he would absolutely drool, I think, if I could convincingly pull off the role of dominatrix...we haven't explored it, but I'm pretty sure I know of where I speak...come on, guys, weigh in here. Isn't this a common male fantasy as with menage' a trois?

Interesting point about the pay-for-play diminishing your position of power.

Re: Intriguer

[identity profile] desayuno-ingles.livejournal.com 2005-06-14 04:05 pm (UTC)(link)
you can start by just swapping the power play every 15 minutes. that's what my ex and I used to do sometimes. they have to do whatever you want or you can do whatever you want to them. "scenes" are a bit much for me and I always thought role playing was cheesy as all fuck.

All he has to do is want to believe. Whatever you do will be good as long as you keep control of the situation. It's not very hard for short periods. That's why I like half hour sessions. An hour gets to be too much for me. I run out of ideas. *grin*

do you like like S/M, too? I recommend a nice set of wrist restraints and a small strap as the first things to buy. But you can use a hairbrush or a paint stirrer, too. the stirrer has more bark than bite, hairbrush can have plenty of both. Mixing pleasure with pain is very effective. Run your hand along whatever's just been spanked to redness. Soothes and reminds that you have their pleasure in mind. A good domme always thinks about her sub. Fuck all that men doing whatever the domme wants b/c she wants it. I hate that using attitude. It's more fun to be lovingly in control.

I yearn for a 2' long flog of red, softy-soft leather strips. mmm....can be painful, but also lovely soft.

S/M

[identity profile] msanthropist.livejournal.com 2005-06-15 11:38 pm (UTC)(link)
Don't think we'd be up for the s/m stuff...bondage and excrutiating teasing, but not pain...neither of us are into it. We do have a new riding crop though...hmmmmm...

Re: S/M

[identity profile] desayuno-ingles.livejournal.com 2005-06-16 01:40 am (UTC)(link)
For the look and intimidation? I don't dig on the hard pain, but spanking is lots of yumminess.

[identity profile] commonpeople.livejournal.com 2005-06-14 09:26 am (UTC)(link)
Kick them butt, girlfriend! :P

[identity profile] desayuno-ingles.livejournal.com 2005-06-14 12:02 pm (UTC)(link)
grrrr! hehehehe...

[identity profile] myendeavorca.livejournal.com 2005-06-13 08:44 pm (UTC)(link)
haha you are the biggest prude of a gay man ever!

[identity profile] commonpeople.livejournal.com 2005-06-14 09:26 am (UTC)(link)
Oh hush!

[identity profile] stupid-wanker06.livejournal.com 2005-06-14 04:23 am (UTC)(link)
hm. very curious. next time he stares you should just go "WHAT?!" [then again, that's what I would do and I have the social skills of a centipede so that might not be the best course of action]

[identity profile] commonpeople.livejournal.com 2005-06-14 09:42 am (UTC)(link)
But what if it's all in my head? Then I'd end up looking like a fool. No, I'll just let it be.

[identity profile] myendeavorca.livejournal.com 2005-06-14 02:54 pm (UTC)(link)
Next time, cross your eyes or stick your tongue out at him!

[identity profile] commonpeople.livejournal.com 2005-06-14 02:57 pm (UTC)(link)
Where did you get that from? The Big Playground Book of Insults? :)

[identity profile] myendeavorca.livejournal.com 2005-06-15 01:45 am (UTC)(link)
hey...it works for me! haha

[identity profile] beeorkendurkey.livejournal.com 2005-06-15 04:40 am (UTC)(link)
Ollie... sometimes... I want you to know that you're great.
This is one of those times.

[identity profile] commonpeople.livejournal.com 2005-06-15 12:23 pm (UTC)(link)
Hehe! Well... hmmm... thanks!